November 6, 13 & 20th. This is going to be a great series dealing with all the Junkmail we receive through the culture we live in.
How to Drive Your Kids Away
POSTED BY REGGIE JOINER
If your goal is to push your kids away as soon as possible, then I have a few tips for you. These are guaranteed not only to drive your kids away from your home, but to keep them away for a significant period of time.
1. Try to be their best friend
Master the art of smothering them. Why would they need anyone else in life besides you? You should be there to meet their every need. Oh, and it’s okay to expect them to meet your needs as well. If that doesn’t work, you can always try to be best friends with their best friends.
2. Manipulate their emotions
Guilt works. It worked on you when your parents used it, right? So you should definitely pass it on to your children. The goal is to make them feel so bad they will start being good. This works especially well if you want them to appreciate you more as a parent. Use phrases like, “You know I won’t always be here,” or “I can’t believe you would do something like that to me.” Maybe one day this will help them build a healthy relationship with their own children.
3. Compare them to whoever you want them to become
Everyone needs a tangible example they can use as a yardstick to measure themselves. How else will they know the specific attributes you want them to develop? Make sure you point it out in someone else, especially someone they see everyday like a sister or a brother.
4. Create more drama than they do
If they pitch a fit, pitch a bigger one. You are the adult. Don’t let them out-argue, out-debate, or out reason you. By the way, your body language can really help you make your point. Freely expressing your anger and frustration only implies that you are a very passionate and caring parent. And always remember, the louder you speak the more you will be heard.
5. Live your dreams through them
Push them to do what you wanted to do but never did. This could be your chance to prove to everyone what you could have done. It doesn’t really matter if it is something they don’t want to do. They can learn to be passionate about something that matters to you. Besides, you just want what’s best for them.
6. Nag them until they do it your way
If you don’t remind them of their imperfections and weaknesses, they may never improve. You don’t want them to settle for mediocrity. They need a consistent voice in their ear challenging them to get it right. It’s your job to conform them to the image of the future that you have pictured for them.
7. Fight a lot with your spouse
Your kids should see you stand up for your rights as often as possible. If you don’t want them to grow up and be a wimp in their marriage, then make sure you are quick to put your spouse in his or her place. If you want respect from your kids, you should probably demand it from your partner.
Any ideas? I’m sure you can think of more creative ways to get your kids to run for the door.
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I don’t know who you are.
I don’t know
who you are -
or what you’re going through today.
But I do know
God has placed dreams
in your heart
for a reason.
Keep hoping.
Keep believing.
And keep knowing…
He is able.
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Off and Running
The fall here at New Horizon Church is starting off Hot. I just got back from my Honeymoon with Laura and we had a wonderful time. Tonight I attended our 3rd parenting class of eight that will take place. These classes have been so full of information and well taught by Rod & Susan Clayton. I would recommend any parent(s) to come and soak in the great stuff.
We have also started our LSD (Love, Sex & Dating Series for our middle and high school students. Here is the line up for this series:
Oct. 9 – Love - Chris Dula
Oct. 16 – Sex - Mrs. Dula
Oct. 23 – Dating/Relationship Tim & Raylene Merino
Oct. 30 – Question & Answer with Dwayne & Laura Sayre/Halloween Costume Dress up
We are so pumped about what is happening here at New Horizon Church. Hope to see you this Sunday at 11am for middle school or 4:30 for high school.
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LSD Love.Sex.Dating
Hello Parents,
I want to share with you some info about our upcoming series in Spiked Student Ministries.
The series is called LSD; short for Love, Sex and Dating. Given our permissive secular culture, combined with a multitude of provocative images on television, the internet and in magazines, it is very easy for our young people to develop unhealthy and misguided ideas about the topics I’ve named above. We are going to share with our youth a Biblical perspective that will help them understand God’s intention for these areas of their lives.
The schedule is as follows:
October 9th – Chris Dula will lead the program on Love
October 16th – Lorna Dula will lead the program on Sex
October 23rd – Tim and Raylene Moreno will lead the program on Relationships and Dating
October 30th – Dwayne and Laura Sayre will lead a Q&A session covering all the topics
We expect this program to be a valuable experience for our young people that will help them make good choices now and in the future. No doubt this series will provide an opportunity for many of you to speak with your child(ren) about these topics. Our role is to provide a Biblical context that will reinforce the kind of behavior you will encourage your child to follow.
We welcome your questions and comments. Thank you.
Earl W. Tye
Spiked Student Ministries
Parent Communications
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New Photo Gallery!
Hey Spiked, check out the new RUSpiked photo gallery, starting with pics from the Back to School Kickoff. Includes pictures from the taco eating contest, band performance, and more. More photos to come as the year progresses. C u at Spiked on Sundays from 4:30-7:00 pm… as well as the photo gallery. Don’t miss out!
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New Facebook Page!
Hey Everybody,
Spiked has a new Facebook page for all things NHC Spiked! Check it out and don’t forget to “like”it so you can stay plugged into what’s happening. You might even leave us a message or post your favorite Bible verse. C u there.
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Drinking from a fire hose
This week I have been at New Horizon for one year and I have enjoyed everyday of that year. I have watched and been in awe of the things God has done here. Over the past three weeks It seems as though I can not get enough of God’s word. It’s like everything I read from the Bible is new and so refreshing. It’s like drinking from a fire hose and still there is so much more that I need.
Is. 26:8 In the path of your judgments,
O Lord, we wait for you;
your name and remembrance
are the desire of our soul.
I read this scripture the other day and I have been reading it everyday and listening to what God is saying through it.
Do I trust God?
God is faithful and will not disappoint us.
We have nothing if we are not in relationship with Jesus.
When we walk in obedience with God our love for God shines.
I am so excited for what is happening here at New Horizon Church. We have such a great team of volunteers serving here in Family Ministry. There passion and desire to learn more about God blows me away. This fires me up because out of the overflow of their heart of kids and students are learning about real faith, God’s love and what it means to be a follower of Christ. When we are growing, and God is doing things in our life our kids and students are seeing this. I can not wait to see what God continues to do here at New Horizon Church at this moment and the future. I am thankful to Him that I get to be a part of it. WOW! There is so much more to come.
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Helping students stand
Helping students stand
BY STUART HALL
Our students live in a modern-day Babylon. Everyone is bowing down to something other than the one true God. In such an environment, our teens don’t have to be All-Americans to get attention; they don’t have to be prom queens or star football players to have influence. In Daniel 3, what made Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego stick out was not the fact that they were impressive in appearance or stature. The truth is, it’s not hard to look impressive when you’re standing up and everyone else is bowing down!
Daniel 3:13 tells us that Nebuchadnezzar became “furious with rage” at the three Israelites. Sometimes simply standing for something is all it takes to cause others to become belligerent and angry! Our students need to understand this. But the king’s anger didn’t move Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego. They stayed faithful, opening the door for Nebuchadnezzar to ask questions about their faith and giving them a golden opportunity to tell the king about their God.
The same opportunities will come to our students. Their faithfulness will eventually be questioned. It will also be tested. Nebuchadnezzar tested the three young men by throwing them in a fiery furnace. Our students can expect to face their own “fiery furnaces” as their unbelieving friends test them too.
All because they stand while everyone else is bowing down!
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